Sample Readings

Sample Readings

1 Corinthians 13 (New International Version)
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor, and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. 
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

The Key To Love
The key to love is understanding...
The ability to comprehend not only the spoken word,
but those unspoken gestures, the little things that say so much by themselves.

The key to love is forgiveness... to accept each others faults and pardon mistakes,
without forgetting, but with remembering what you learn from them.

The key to love is sharing... Facing your good fortunes as well as the bad, together;
both conquering problems, forever searching for ways to intensify your happiness.

The key to love is giving... without thought of return,
but with the hope of just a simple smile, and by giving in but never giving up.

The key to love is respect... realizing that you are two separate people, with different ideas;
that you don't belong to each other, that you belong with each other, and share a mutual bond.

The key to love is inside us all...
It takes time and patience to unlock all the ingredients that will take you to its threshold;
it is the continual learning process that demands a lot of work...
but the rewards are more than worth the effort...        and that is the key to love.

Art of Marriage by William Peterson
The little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.

It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.

It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have wings of an angel.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.

It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.

It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal,
dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.

What Is Love    Author Unknown
Sooner or later we begin to understand that love is more than verses on valentines and romance in the movies. We begin to know that love is here and now, real and true, the most important thing in our lives. For love is the creator of our favorite memories and the foundation of our fondest dreams. Love is a promise that is always kept, a fortune that can never be spent, a seed that can flourish in even the most unlikely of places. And this radiance that never fades, this mysterious and magical joy, is the greatest treasure of all - one known only by those who love.
What is Marriage?  (Anonymous)
What is marriage?
Marriage is more than the exchange of rings and the sharing of a household;
It is much more than just living together.
It is the desire to truly want to know and understand another human being;
to feel and share in that person's happiness, as well as their pain.
Marriage is to never feel alone; but rather, to know that you always
have a friend; a partner in life that you can laugh and cry with.
To know that you always have that special someone to share your
innermost thoughts and fears, and know that you will be heard.
Marriage is helping your partner to be the absolute best that they can be,
while still being able to experience your own need and goals.
Marriage is love; true love that goes far beyond passion;
It is a love that you can reach for  in times of crisis as well as joy,
and know it will be there to comfort and to share.

When a Man and a Woman are in Love
When a man and a woman are in love,
His life lies within hers and her life lies within his.
Each lives as an individual, yet they also live for one another.
Each strives for independent goals, but they also work together to achieve their dreams.
When a man and a woman are in love, they will give to one another
What they need to survive and help fulfill each other's wants.
They will turn one another's disappointment into satisfaction.
They will turn one another's frustration into contentment.
They will work as a mirror, reflecting to each other their strengths and weaknesses.
They will work together to alleviate the emotional walls that may separate them.
They will work together to build a better understanding of one another.
They will learn to lean on each other, but not so much as to be a burden on the other.
They will learn to reach out to one another, but not so much as to suffocate the other.
They will learn when it is time to speak and when it is time to listen.
They will be there to comfort each other in times of sorrow.
They will be there to celebrate together in times of happiness.
They will be one another's friend, guiding each other to the happiness that life holds.
They will be one another's companion, facing together the challenges that life may present.
When a man and a woman are in love, his life lies within hers and her life lies within his.
Together they will love one another for the rest of their lives and forever.
May this kind of love always help you keep the promises you are about to make here today.

Five Pearls of Wisdom
Today is the beginning of an exciting new life together for the two of you, (Groom)  and (Bride) . It
marks the commencement of new relationships to your families, your friends, and certainly to each
other. God knew your needs when He brought you together. He knew exactly what you needed to
make you complete. Now He wants you to commit yourselves to accept each other as the one He has
chosen to complete you. Total completeness, however, is a process that takes patience, perseverance,
and the pursuit of particular principles-principles that must be implemented so you can achieve the
oneness that God intended for your marriage. Here are five little "pearls of wisdom" I want to share
with you as you begin this new partnership on your journey to total completeness. 
First, LISTEN. Listen to each other. Try to hear what your mate is really saying. The Scripture says:
"Be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger.” What you say and how you say it is the
foundation upon which to build your marriage. Say things that will encourage and support your
partner.  Take those words you hear from each other into your heart and let them become building
blocks for a solid marriage, stepping stones to happiness. Communication is very important in
marriage.  Take the time to talk with each other. But more importantly, talk the time to listen, for in
listening, you communicate that you value your partner's thoughts and feelings.
Second, LEARN. Learn from each other. Both of you are different in many ways. You each bring
certain abilities and specific gifts into this relationship. Learn what those talents are, then accept each
other's strengths and combine them with yours. Every day will be an adventure as you learn and
understand something new about your mate. In fact, the Bible says, "Husbands, live with your wives
in an understanding way." So _______your lifelong assignment is to try to understand this woman,
and _______, your lifelong assignment is to make sure he understands you. What an assignment!
If you learn from each other, not only will you be better individuals, but also a better couple. Your
marriage will grow stronger because of your desire to understand your partner. So take time to learn
all you can about each other.
Listen, Learn, and third, LABOR-or work Be willing to work on your relationship. Someone once
said, "Anything worth having in this life is worth working for." Make every effort to make this the
very best marriage on God's earth. You don't find precious gems just lying around on top of the ground.
You have to dig and work hard to get to them. But once you find them, they are worth every bit of
effort you made. So too, if you work on your relationship, it will be like finding those precious gems,
and you'll "strike it rich" because of all your labor.
Listen, Learn, Labor, and fourth, LAUGH. Learn to laugh. Laugh at yourself and laugh at each other.
The Bible says that "laughter is good medicine." Getting married is a serious step, and it should be
taken seriously.  But I also am serious when I say that having fun and being able to laugh at our
mistakes and shortcomings goes a long way in solidifying the mortar of this institution we call
marriage.  Studies show that laughter has a profound and positive effect on the body. Laughter is the
medicine for a long and happy life. I guess it can be said that he who laughs.. .lasts. So the best way
to make your marriage work is to make it play.
Listen, Learn, Labor, Laugh, and finally, LOVE. What is love? Countless songs have been sung about
it. Poems too many to number have been penned describing it. Books as numerous as the stars in the
sky have been authored by both men and women trying to help us understand it. But the one Book that
rises above them all, the Bible, simply defines love this way:
"Love is very patient and kind, never jealous or envious, never boastful or proud, never haughty or
selfish or rude. Love does not demand its own way nor is it irritable or touchy. It does not hold
grudges and will hardly ever notice when others do it wrong. It is never glad about injustice, but
rejoices whenever truth wins out. This kind of love knows no boundaries to its tolerance, no end to its
trust, no fading of its hope, no limit to its endurance. It can outlast anything. Love is, in fact, the one
thing that still stands when all else has failed. " So you can see, love is not just something you feel, it is
something you do. (Groom) ________, it has been said, "If you treat your wife like a queen, she will
treat you like a king." Or to put it another way, "If you treat her like a thoroughbred, she'll never turn
into an old nag." 
And so.. .LISTEN, LEARN, LABOR, LAUGH, and LOVE. Practice these five principles and, with
God's guidance, your marriage will blossom and grow into a life-long partnership that will endure the
challenges of life and withstand the tests of time. 

On Friendship    by Roy Croft (also called 'Love'; also called 'To my Friend')
I love you, not for what you are, but what I am, when I am with you.
I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but what you are making of me.
I love you for the part of me that you bring out.

I love you for putting your hand into my heaped up heart and passing over all the frivolous and weak things that you cannot help seeing there, and for drawing out into the light all the beautiful and radiant things that no one else has looked quite far enough to find...

I love you because you have done more than any creed could have done to make me good, and more than any fate could have done to make me happy.

You have done it without a touch, without a word, without a sign. You have done it by being yourself. Perhaps that is what being a friend means after all.

What is Love?    by Susan Polis Schutz
Love is the strongest feeling known an all -encompassing passion
an extreme strength an overwhelming excitement

Love is trying not to hurt the other person trying not to change the other person
trying not to dominate the other person trying not to deceive the other person
Love is understanding each other listening to each other
supporting each other having fun with each other.

Love is not an excuse to stop growing not an excuse to stop making yourself better
not an excuse to lessen one's goals not an excuse to take the other person for granted  
Love is being completely honest with each other finding dreams to share
working towards common goals sharing responsibilities equally

Everyone in the world wants to love.  Love is not a feeling to be taken lightly
Love is a feeling to be cherished, nurtured and cared for
Love is the reason for life 

Love Letter Ceremony
Minister: _____ and _______ have chosen as a couple to perform a Love Letter ceremony.
This box contains a love letter from each to the other. The letters describe the good qualities they find in one another, the reasons they fell in love, and their reasons for choosing to marry. The letters are sealed in individual envelopes and they have not seen what the other has written. You have created your very own "romantic" time capsule to be opened on your 5th wedding anniversary.
Please keep the box in a place of honor prominently displayed in your home as a constant reminder of your commitment to each other.
Minister: _______ and _______ should you ever find your marriage enduring insurmountable hardships, together, open this box, and read the letters you wrote to one another when you were united as a couple in marriage. By reading these love letters you will reflect upon the reasons you fell in love and chose to marry each other here today.
The hope is, however, that you will never have a reason to open this box. And if this is the case, you are to open this box to share and enjoy on your 5th year wedding anniversary!
Minister: _____ and _____, you may now seal the box.  
Marriage Joins Two People In The Circle Of Its Love       by Edmund O'Neill
Marriage is a commitment to life, the best that two people can find and bring out in each other. It offers opportunities for sharing and growth that no other relationship can equal. It is a physical and an emotional joining that is promised for a lifetime.
Within the circle of its love, marriage encompasses all of life's most important relationships. A wife and a husband are each other's best friend, confidant, lover, teacher, listener, and critic. And there may come times when one partner is heartbroken or ailing, and the love of the other may resemble the tender caring of a parent for a child.
Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life. Happiness is fuller, memories are fresher, commitment is stronger, even anger is felt more strongly, and passes away more quickly.

Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life is unable to avoid. It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences, and new ways of expressing a love that is deeper than life. When two people pledge their love and care for each other in marriage, they create a spirit unique unto themselves, which binds them, closer than any spoken or written words. Marriage is a promise, a potential made in the hearts of two people who love each other and takes a lifetime to fulfill.

On Love   ~       By Thomas Kempis 
Love is a mighty power, a great and complete good.
Love alone lightens every burden, and makes rough places smooth.
It bears every hardship as though it were nothing, and renders
all bitterness sweet and acceptable.
Nothing is sweeter than love, Nothing stronger,
Nothing higher, Nothing wider,
Nothing more pleasant,
Nothing fuller or better in heaven or earth; for love is born of God.
Love flies, runs and leaps for joy. It is free and unrestrained.
Love knows no limits, but ardently transcends all bounds.
Love feels no burden, takes no account of toil,
attempts things beyond its strength.
Love sees nothing as impossible, for it feels able to achieve all things.
It is strange and effective, while those who lack love faint and fail.
Love is not fickle and sentimental, nor is it intent on vanities.
Like a living flame and a burning torch, it surges upward and surely surmounts every obstacle.
What Is Love~     Author Unknown
Sooner or later we begin to understand that love is more than verses on valentines and romance in the movies. We begin to know that love is here and now, real and true, the most important thing in our lives. For love is the creator of our favorite memories and the foundation of our fondest dreams. Love is a promise that is always kept, a fortune that can never be spent, a seed that can flourish in even the most unlikely of places. And this radiance that never fades, this mysterious and magical joy, is the greatest treasure of all - one known only by those who love.
True Love      Author Unknown
True love is a sacred flame
That burns eternally,
And none can dim its special glow
Or change its destiny.
True love speaks in tender tones
And hears with gentle ear,
True love gives with open heart
And true love conquers fear.
True love makes no harsh demands
It neither rules nor binds,
And true love holds with gentle hands
The hearts that it entwines.  
These I Can Promise ,   Author Unknown
I cannot promise you a life of sunshine;
I cannot promise riches, wealth, or gold;
I cannot promise you an easy pathway
That leads away from change or growing old.
But I can promise all my heart's devotion;
A smile to chase away your tears of sorrow;
A love that's ever true and ever growing;
A hand to hold in yours through each tomorrow.   
This Day I Married My Best Friend ,    Author Unknown
This day I married my best friend
...the one I laugh with as we share life's wondrous zest,
as we find new enjoyments and experience all that's best.
...the one I live for because the world seems brighter
as our happy times are better and our burdens feel much lighter.
...the one I love with every fiber of my soul.
We used to feel vaguely incomplete, now together we are whole.  
 Excerpt from "The Bridge Across Forever"    by Richard Bach
"A soul mate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel
safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly
who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we're pretending to be. Each
unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one
person we're safe in our own paradise. Our soul mate is someone who shares our deepest
longings, our sense of direction. When we're two balloons, and together our direction is up,
chances are we've found the right person. Our soul mate is the one who makes life come to life."

From "Gift From The Sea"    by Anne Morrow Lindbergh (b.1906)
"When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from
moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly
what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of
relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will
never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity
possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity - in freedom, in the sense that the dancers
are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern.

The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in
hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia,
nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation, but living in the present relationship
and accepting it as it is now. Relationships must be like islands, one must accept them for what
they are here and now, within their limits - islands, surrounded and interrupted by the sea, and
continually visited and abandoned by the tides."
 A Good Wedding Cake ,   Author Unknown
4 lb. of love.
1 lb. butter of youth.
1/2 lb. of good looks.
l lb. sweet temper.
1 lb. of blindness for faults.
1 lb. of self forgetfulness.
l lb. of pounded wit.
l lb. of good humor.
2 tablespoons of sweet argument.
1 pint of rippling laughter.
1 wine glass of common sense.
1 oz. modesty.
Put the love, good looks and sweet temper into a well furnished house. Beat the butter of youth to a cream, and mix well together with the blindness of faults. Stir the pounded wit and good humor into the sweet argument, then add the rippling laughter and common sense. Work the whole together until everything is well mixed, and bake gently for ever.
"Oh the Places You'll Go"    by Dr. Seuss
"Congratulations! Today is your day.
You're off to Great Places! You're off and away!
You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself any direction you choose.
You're on your own. And you know what you know.
And YOU are the couple who'll decide where to go.
You'll look up and down streets. Look 'em over with care.
About some you will say, "We don't choose to go there."
With your heads full of brains and your shoes full of feet,
You're too smart to go down, any not-so-good street.
And you may not find any you'll want to go down.
In that case, of course, you'll head straight out of town.
It's opener there in the wide open air,
Out there things can happen and frequently do
to people as brainy and footsy as you.
And when things start to happen, don't worry. Don't stew.
Just go right along. You'll start happening too


You'll be on your way up! You'll be seeing great sights!
You'll join the high fliers who soar to great heights!
You won't lag behind, because you'll have all the speed.
You'll pass the whole gang, and you'll soon take the lead.
Wherever you fly you'll be best of the best.
Wherever you go, you will top all the rest.
Except when you don't. Because sometimes, you won't.
You'll get mixed up of course, as you already know.
You'll get mixed up with so many strange birds as you go.
So be sure when you step.
Step with great care and great tact
and remember that Life's a Great Balancing Act.
Just never forget to be dexterous and deft.
And never mix up your right foot with your left.
And will you succeed?
Yes! You will indeed!
(98 and ¾ percent guaranteed.)


So, be your name Buxbaum or Dowrie or Bass
or Mordecai Ali Van Allen O'Shea,
you're off to great places!
Today is your day!
Your mountain is waiting.
So get on your way!" 

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